I know I’m not the man I was when I was drinking and using. But I also know I have no right to demand that others accept my transformation. I have no right to insist on being trusted. I have no right to expect forgiveness. There are places I may never be welcome as a result of my past, and I accept that. I don’t get to dictate the terms on which I’m received into any community.
This whole episode has raised questions about issues of atonement; restorative justice; privilege; the role of men in feminism. I’m willing to dialogue around those issues if a forum can be found in which that conversation can take place safely for everyone. I’m open to suggestions as to how, when, and where that dialogue can best take place. Some of the criticisms I’ve received have been valid, and I promise you, I’ve heard them.