The longing to be seen is not unique to women. (In the same way, both men and women can and do fear a penetrating, judgmental gaze.) Many guys, even ones who don’t work out or wax, long to know that their bodies are appealing. At the least, they want to know they aren’t repulsive and disgusting, which is the unspoken anxiety in so many male lives. While none of us will be found desirable by everyone, and some of us will be found desirable by only a few, we’re more fascinating, beautiful, weird and—maybe—hotter than we realize.